How to Remember the Principles of “Six Ways To Make People Like Me”

HOW TO REMEMBER

I have read about Carnegies’ 6 principles. I have written about Carnegie’s 6 principles. The  question is …will I remember them?
  1. Become interested in the person.
  2. Smile.
  3. Remember and use their name.
  4. Be a good listener.
  5. Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.
  6. Make the other person feel important (Affirm or compliment).

I want to remember them, but how? When coaching my clients….whatever they want to remember to do; we create a strategy and accountability. So I said to myself,

“Self,  I am going to remember these by using the acronym  SINLOPIA.”    Smile, Interested, Name, Listen, Other Person’s Interests, Affirmation.  Do  I want everyone to like me? Do I really care if everyone likes me in this world? No I do not. However, I want to be ready to apply the principles if I want to. And If I am going to be ready, I need to practise.

PRACTISE

And yes, I took liberty to change the top two around so as to find it easier to remember. After all, the first thing I do in relating is to smile. I discovered in these last few weeks how intentional one has to be in order to remember to practise these principles. Otherwise, lost  opportunities keep piling up. As I was booking my flight to Alberta, I reminded myself again to use these principles should I sit beside someone whom wished to converse.

EASIER SAID THAN DONE

A few days ago I got on my flight.  I sat down beside a gentleman. Within 5 seconds  he began to converse with me. I can do this, I thought to myself.

I smiled. I found it easy to smile at him. Secondly, however,  it became more difficult as I applied the  “become Interested” principle. I realized what a boring person he was. He never asked me anything about myself until we were landing. Becoming restless, I wanted to stretch, to  twitch.  I had to hold on to my patience as he waxed on his favourite subjects. I felt like I was going to go out of my mind!! Forcing  myself to calm down, I asked more questions.

Thirdly, I have to admit, that I actually learned some rather good information which would be helpful to my life. Fourthly, I was able to affirm him because after listening to him talk nonstop for 1 hour, I felt I knew him quite well!  He lit up as I complimented him on how he is empowering young men. I could tell it made him feel good.

All in all it was a good exercise. Did I feel I had to do it? No. If I had been exhausted I would have just closed  my eyes and actually told him I had to catch a few winks.

TAKE THE CHALLENGE

Try it sometime. You might learn something helpful for yourself. You might learn how much you want to interrupt. It is a good discipline in being unselfish. It forces you to search for a compliment or something you can affirm someone in. You could make a difference in someone’s life.

S I N L O P I A

So…. Smile, (be) Interested, (remember to use the person’s) Name, Listen (don’t interrupt), (talk in terms of the) Other Person’s Interest,  Affirm.

 

-Karen Moilliet  February 26, 2020

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