YOU CAN’T CONTROL YOUR LIFE

How do I control my life? You can’t. However it is possible to manage your life effectively. We are not ever really in control. There are too many factors that get in the way. Out of the blue your progression is blocked; not because of your decision but because of someone else’s or tragedy. World financial crashes and virus pandemics are not your fault nor can you control them.

BE PROACTIVE

Accept ahead of time that you are going to have some rough patches in life. Understand that there will be break downs, slow downs, changes that you can’t stop. Plan a strategy for when these things happen. I know of a man who was manager of a large sawmill. When breakdowns or worse happened, he would take a walk around the property. That was his plan. I remind myself to take 3 big long breaths slowly when I feel the anger building. That is part of my plan. Have a plan. Write it down. Practise using it.

BLOCKED GOALS

Nobody goes more than a day without some kind of big or little blocked goals. While most of us get through or around little blockages, it is the big ones and the repeated ones that cause the problems. I  had a doctor of psychology tell me that depression and anger are due to  blocked goals.  As a result, this helped me. When I would wake up thereafter with the feeling of depression I would ask myself, “What goals in my life are being blocked?”  Consequently, I was then able to change my goals or plan a new strategy.

ANGER AND DEPRESSION

Broken dreams?…..Broken strategies because of other people’s choices? That is when you pick yourself up and look at how you can go around, over, under or even through this obstacle. Sometimes it is having patience with a process. Breathe. Above all stop the anger.

Go back to the drawing board. Develop a  master group of 3 or more people you can gather online or face-to-face. Have them help you take a new look at your plan. They will have objective perspective when you may have tunnel vision.

Certainly, when a machine breaks down that is necessary for your success, anger is the first reaction.  A loved one gets sick. It is a blocked desire. If they do not heal, depression sets in.   https://www.lifecoachhelps.com/4-tips-to-beat-the-blue/

LOSS AND TRAGEDY

Most times, none of us can control sickness or death. The death of a loved one is the biggest block. It blocks joy. Death of a close family member will add burdens. Depression after a death is sure to set in. It is really nothing you can plan for.  But after the horrible first acute grieving, remember that you have the ability to go on. Your loved one would want it. Find resources. Receive help. Don’t go it alone. I am only a phone call away.  Secondly, get a good counselor to help manage the grief.    https://inroadscounselling.com/

HOW DO I CONTROL MY LIFE?

How do you control your life? You can’t. But you can manage it. While disappointments and failures paint our life, even more, let’s learn how to effectively come on back with new strategies, new hope.

-Karen Moilliet  April 15, 2020